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My BAD. As another example for you.

April 17, 2011

…In case you’re stuck, I’ll share another example. One from my life. It’s not my primary or earliest BAD, but it’s one off them.  My mom was dating a man I strongly disliked. I thought I’d be really mature about it and have a talk with her about finally dumping him. I was about 9 [...]

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Stop dating the wrong people. Or whatever else you want to change.

February 12, 2011

It’s almost Valentine’s Day. Or maybe it already is, or it just was. I don’t know when you got here. Valentine’s Day might be good news. Or it might suck. I’ve had both; you probably have, too. In case you’re in a sucky love moment (yes, it’s a MOMENT or a series of MOMENTS no [...]

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The Woman Who Makes Me Want a Shower

November 17, 2010

Think about the people who trigger you most: your mom, the nosy neighbor, that lady in the cubicle next to you who shops online and plays Farmville all day as if no one’s on to her. Think about the feeling you get amidst these triggery people—repulsion is the most common. A physical reaction that makes [...]

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Projection. And Parenting.

September 27, 2010

Projection is fascinating, isn’t it? When I looked up the definition of projection I saw a lot of stuff related to television screens. So I’ll clarify—as if it’s necessary in this blog—that I mean psychological projection. You know, where you attribute your feelings or thoughts to someone else. You assume they think and feel the [...]

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You don’t hate yourself

September 21, 2010

I have this client I love. I love all my clients, actually…that’s what happens when people get really honest and authentic and start working on their stuff. It’s really hard to not love them when they’re stepping into that. And when I’m paid to see them as Who They Really Are.  But I digress. Anyway, [...]

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Ask and you shall Recieve

August 22, 2010

I went for a walk the other day, not feeling so great. I was filled with worry and self-judgment. Did some self-coaching that morning and it just wasn’t giving me the relief I was looking for. The worry was around getting pregnant again. Or more accurately, the fear of not getting pregnant again. The self-judgment [...]

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How you do Anything is how you do Everything

July 26, 2010

I’ve been drawn to this expression for a while, not really understanding it intellectually but totally getting it on some intuitive level. It felt right on, even though I didn’t understand what it meant. Does it do anything for you? It’s all about patterns. For example, how do you react when you’re confronted? Do you [...]

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