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Distinguish True Intuition from Ego-Mind-Chatter

April 25, 2011

It’s a common confusion. You feel an inner nudge. There’s a voice. But can you trust it? How do you know? Is it really the deep voice of intuition, or just the mind? The guidance of Truth…or ego? I’m often unsure, just like you. But I’ve been working on it for quite a while now, [...]

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Fight for your Right to Party. Not to Worry.

March 30, 2011

I get this question all the time when I’m helping people with chronic, habitual fear and worry. “But isn’t worry helpful, to some extent?” they ask, fighting for their right to worry. “Isn’t it protective?” From what do you think you need protection? The fear that your mind made up to begin with? Yes, that’s [...]

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A Coaching Session about Fear

March 4, 2011

I’d like to share an email exchange between me and one of my clients. I’m sharing this with her full permission and blessing. I’m sharing it because her feelings are so common, so real, so human. I hear these same thoughts all the time—in my own head and from the mouths of others. We agreed [...]

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Why it’s hard to Give to people in pain

February 28, 2011

This post by Danielle LaPorte took my breath away. I had been feeling awful about it already, so maybe that’s why. I’d love for you to head over and read her wisdom on why we resist giving to people in need. Why it sometimes takes extraordinary courage to give. And then come back here. And [...]

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What have your Obstacles done for you, Lately? (Or, How Panic Disorder helped me relax)

February 19, 2011

I became freakishly peaceful the summer of 2000.  I had always been into working on my stuff and becoming more Enlightened, but that summer after my first year of grad school was entirely different. I was meditating regularly—the silent, lotus-position, old-school way. I took mindful showers and mindful walks, and I mindfully cleaned the toilet. [...]

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Do you Manufacture Worry?

February 15, 2011

It takes courage to be happy. It’s very human to be afraid of the uncertainty of life. Afraid all the good stuff you have is going to end and you won’t be able to cope. Brene Brown talks about the panic that sets in while she’s staring lovingly at her sleeping children. From “aren’t they [...]

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What Aaron Rodgers was thinking. And more important, what he wasn’t thinking.

February 9, 2011

A few years ago, Brett Favre stepped down as the Green Bay Packers starting quarterback. To say that Green Bay loved Brett Favre is kind of like saying Charlie Sheen loves parties. Walk into any junior high school in Wisconsin and you’ll find classrooms full of 13 year old boys named Brett after Favre brought [...]

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Do you Leave the Plastic on things? Maybe that’s Why you’re not Rich.

January 31, 2011

Please take my quiz. It’s so easy you don’t even need a pen.  1. When you buy new clothes do you wear them right away? Even if you’re not going anywhere special? Or do you save them so they stay new longer? (If you’re hesitant to wear new clothes, give yourself 1 point). 2. Do [...]

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How I Sabotage my Marriage

January 12, 2011

Humans love stability. And balance. So much so that even really good changes can feel uncomfortable. Winning the lottery, getting the staring role in that television drama, publishing your book…awesome, but panic-inducing, too. Just like thermostats, we have a set point. Diverging too far from our internal average leaves us feeling vulnerable. And vulnerable is [...]

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No one is Paying Attention to You

December 17, 2010

People don’t notice your mistakes as much as you think they do. It’s a law of the universe. Okay, maybe not of the universe, but it is a law of human psychology. It’s called the Spotlight Effect in social psychology. There’s a study where college students are asked to do something super embarrasing…wear a Barry Manilow t-shirt [...]

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