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Are you harshing your own buzz?

September 22, 2011

All the coolest research says making small progress on the way to a big goal makes us happier than actually reaching the goal. When we reach those stepping stone mini-goals, our brain rewards us with a quick hit of dopamine. In case you’re not up on your neurotransmitters, dopamine is the bringer of pleasure and [...]

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The cast of characters in your life

August 4, 2011

Every once and a while I talk to someone who asks permission to end a friendship. They say something like, “Is it really okay that I stop calling?”, or “I can’t just ‘break-up’ with her…can I?”  Here’s my view on relationships: Life is like a play—there are many scenes and a rotating cast of characters. [...]

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The paradox of self-help

April 22, 2011

I’m obsessed with paradox lately. You know paradox—a statement that seems contradictory but really isn’t. Two (or more) things that appear to be mutually exclusive but both are actually true. My favorite paradox is this: You are whole + perfect + enough as you are right now and you can be better. If you have [...]

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My BAD. As another example for you.

April 17, 2011

…In case you’re stuck, I’ll share another example. One from my life. It’s not my primary or earliest BAD, but it’s one off them.  My mom was dating a man I strongly disliked. I thought I’d be really mature about it and have a talk with her about finally dumping him. I was about 9 [...]

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Is my husband actually happy as a stay-at-home dad? The difference between a happy life and an interesting life.

March 12, 2011

You’ve probably read that my husband stays home with our kid. I’m amazed that this works as well as it does.  We both had a lot of concerns going into it. I worried that having him always home, making so many of the parenting and household decisions I usually made would end in me criticizing [...]

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The Quest to Figure Them Out

March 9, 2011

“Why would she do that?” –Everyone on earth, at some point “What did he mean by that thing he said?” –Anyone with a pulse and heartbeat We all try to interpret the words and actions of other people. Partly because we’re curious, armchair psychologists. It’s interesting to ponder their inner workings. But it’s not always [...]

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The Case for Changing your Environment

March 3, 2011

Feeling more of the good stuff—joy, gratitude, peace—is an inside job. No doubt about it. I mean, if you have a hard time changing your own thoughts, feelings, and actions (and I know you sometimes do), what makes you think you can control someone else’s thoughts, feeling, and actions? The safer bet is to change [...]

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Do you Manufacture Worry?

February 15, 2011

It takes courage to be happy. It’s very human to be afraid of the uncertainty of life. Afraid all the good stuff you have is going to end and you won’t be able to cope. Brene Brown talks about the panic that sets in while she’s staring lovingly at her sleeping children. From “aren’t they [...]

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How your Family Triggers your Stuff and Reveals your Patterns. And how that can be a good thing.

January 21, 2011

Family Triggers your Stuff Have you spent time with family lately? Family—even the ones you like, miss, and get along with famously—have a way of triggering issues. They bring up all your stuff.  Did you notice? “If you think you’re enlightened, go spend a week with your parents.” –Ram Dass I couldn’t agree more. What [...]

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You don’t hate yourself

September 21, 2010

I have this client I love. I love all my clients, actually…that’s what happens when people get really honest and authentic and start working on their stuff. It’s really hard to not love them when they’re stepping into that. And when I’m paid to see them as Who They Really Are.  But I digress. Anyway, [...]

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