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The Problem with Non-Conformity

January 27, 2011

Being a non-conformist is kind of a big deal to me.           I’ve never liked rules. I always question authority. Freedom is my highest priority value. The problem is that if you take it too far, being a non-conformist can quickly become a form of conformity. Let me explain. Non-conformity isn’t really about being different or [...]

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What a mess!

June 27, 2010

I have serious issues with clutter. I hate it; makes me feel icky. When I’m visiting someone who has a lot of stuff—and that stuff is out where I have to see it—I get claustrophobic and start looking for the door. I’m talking about physical stuff, like those old plastic cups that came from the gas [...]

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The Relationship Manual

June 24, 2010

I often talk to clients who are furious about how someone has treated them. They assume the other person should have known better. For example, a girl complains that her boyfriend didn’t have her favorite wine on hand for their anniversary dinner (although she never mentioned wanting it), or that her girlfriends should’ve known she’d need [...]

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Shifting Perspective

June 1, 2010

  I wanted to share a couple perspective-shifters I’ve been using. I’m working on turning them into habits so that they become default ways of thinking. I think I have a way to go, but it’s getting easier every day.     1) The Blank Slate The first is a little trick I call the Blank Slate. Imagine [...]

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