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Speaking your Truth

What to do when Positive Affirmations feel Negative

December 15, 2011

I love positive affirmations. But only when I’m feeling good and want to feel even better. When you feel good, affirmations feel like a healthy stretch into what could be possible. Things like “I love and accept myself” or “Good things are coming my way” feel kind of…true. Or potentially true, at least. And when [...]

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The Lies We Tell

October 20, 2011

I was recently interviewed for a story on The Lies We Tell Ourselves, which got me thinking a lot about our common, everyday lies.  There are classic and pervasive lies, like “I can’t” and “I’m too busy”. “I can’t” and “I’m too busy” are lies because there is almost nothing we really can’t do or [...]

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You’re doing exactly what you want to do

July 21, 2011

I hear a lot of people say that they want to do things they’re not doing. I say they don’t really want to do those things. They only think they want to. Like, you might say, “I’d really want to write a book” or “I’d love to be a long-distance runner” but if you don’t [...]

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Truth or “La, la, la”?

June 30, 2011

We were at dinner with friends the other night—our friends (another couple) and their teenage daughter. Our friends had just returned from a vacation where they left both teenage daughters at home. I asked the one that was having dinner with us, “So did you and your sister throw some wild parties while your parents [...]

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Releasing it? Or Avoiding it?

June 6, 2011

My client Patty says she’s afraid of conflict. She often runs away and avoids speaking up in the hopes that her problems go away on their own. She doesn’t call it running away though. She calls it turning the other cheek. She tells me she’s being Enlightened. I correct her. Don’t lie to yourself, Patty. [...]

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Is Life Harder or Easier since College? Fitting in vs. Belonging

March 17, 2011

March 17th used to mean drinking all day.  I’m not even exaggerating. I’d spend the day with a large group of people—a few real friends and hoards of acquaintances and virtual strangers. We’d start the bar crawl at 7am and end around 2am on March 18th. It was fun. At the time, I truly believed [...]

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Why it’s hard to Give to people in pain

February 28, 2011

This post by Danielle LaPorte took my breath away. I had been feeling awful about it already, so maybe that’s why. I’d love for you to head over and read her wisdom on why we resist giving to people in need. Why it sometimes takes extraordinary courage to give. And then come back here. And [...]

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Are your requests really unreasonable?

October 23, 2010

I recently wrote an article for my eZine on non-attachment. In it, I tell the story of a client who decided to live the motto, “What will be, will be”. Empowering, right? Well, sort of. He took that laid-back, wait and watch stance to mean that he should stop choosing, stop creating, and start reacting. Reacting rather than [...]

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What’s Not Said

August 29, 2010

For everything that’s said, there are a million things unsaid. Two people I know of died recently. I wanted to tell Holly’s husband and children how much I liked and admired their wife and mom. How peaceful and calm and scared and human she was. But I didn’t. I wanted to tell Stacie that I [...]

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Whose Underwear are you Wearing?

August 17, 2010

Isn’t it cool that there are people who are really passionate about algebra? And chemistry and dry cleaning and accounting? Thank God for those people, because I love a good dry cleaner and it would suck to have to do that myself. Think about all the people who are stuck doing stuff they don’t love. [...]

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