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10 Tips for Dealing with Difficult Family Members

December 22, 2011

You’re sitting around the Christmas tree, or the Menorah, or the fruitcake and bottle of scotch, with your family. Everyone’s in a great mood, grateful for this time together. The glimmer of holiday lights reflects off the blanket of white, fluffy snow.  Alternating scents of pine and apple pie waft thorough the house. Your family [...]

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The Problem with Non-Conformity

January 27, 2011

Being a non-conformist is kind of a big deal to me.           I’ve never liked rules. I always question authority. Freedom is my highest priority value. The problem is that if you take it too far, being a non-conformist can quickly become a form of conformity. Let me explain. Non-conformity isn’t really about being different or [...]

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34 Things I’ve Learned in 34 Years

January 17, 2011

It’s my birthday. Yay. Because I tend to get a little nostalgic and contemplative around my birthday, it seemed like a good time to take stock of some of the things I’ve learned so far. So far in life, that is. I’ve been wanting to keep a list, anyway. You know, a list of things [...]

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When your Parent Can’t Give You the Love You Deserve

December 9, 2010

I knew I’d write about this someday, but it wasn’t supposed to be now. Then a friend confided in me that she was scared to death that her mother—who doesn’t show her much love or approval—was right about her. And someone else turned to me when her relationship with her parents unraveled because they couldn’t [...]

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Are your requests really unreasonable?

October 23, 2010

I recently wrote an article for my eZine on non-attachment. In it, I tell the story of a client who decided to live the motto, “What will be, will be”. Empowering, right? Well, sort of. He took that laid-back, wait and watch stance to mean that he should stop choosing, stop creating, and start reacting. Reacting rather than [...]

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Ick, Mindfulness

October 9, 2010

If my mind were a person, it would be this man: Can you relate? I love my blog readers. And I hate the topics of mindfulness and meditation so much that I feel kind of guilty doing this to you right now. So for my own peace of mind, I have to include this little [...]

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What Change Looks Like

September 12, 2010

When people first hire a coach–or take any big step to change their life–things start happening with surprising speed. Here’s a scenario I see all the time: Someone contacts me about coaching. We chat; they decide to go ahead with it. Between their decision to work with me and our first session together, things start [...]

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Whose Underwear are you Wearing?

August 17, 2010

Isn’t it cool that there are people who are really passionate about algebra? And chemistry and dry cleaning and accounting? Thank God for those people, because I love a good dry cleaner and it would suck to have to do that myself. Think about all the people who are stuck doing stuff they don’t love. [...]

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Signs from the Universe

August 4, 2010

If you’ve coached with me, you’ve probably heard me talk about the metaphor of sticks and birds. In the practice of creating anything, its common to go through a period where you have a lot of near misses. You  intend for more money and find out you’re getting an unexpected check for $1000, only to [...]

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How you do Anything is how you do Everything

July 26, 2010

I’ve been drawn to this expression for a while, not really understanding it intellectually but totally getting it on some intuitive level. It felt right on, even though I didn’t understand what it meant. Does it do anything for you? It’s all about patterns. For example, how do you react when you’re confronted? Do you [...]

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